We deserve a lot more than happiness. We deserve to feel whole, complete and fulfilled

There’s one thing that really upsets me in the coaching industry. Sometimes, people confuse positivity with toxic positivity, and the coaching experience can quickly become very dangerous.

I have seen messages (and even watched coaching sessions) where it’s asked the audience to suppress their actual feelings so they can lie to themselves with toxic positivity. Affirmations come to mind.

You sitting in front of the mirror, repeating things that not only mean nothing to you, it actually perpetuate the idea that you are not those things. 

That’s what I thought this branch of psychology was like. I didn’t want to study Positive Psychology, thinking it was just another way to lie to ourselves that everything was great.

But as time went by, I wanted to learn different tools to advance my coaching strategies. I have been using the same tools for five years, and don’t get me wrong, these tools are amazing. I love to mix coaching concepts with psychology and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and it has served me really well, but it was time to change it up a little bit.

I wanted to find ways to go even deeper with my clients and help them overcome obstacles faster and in a healthier way. 

Completely out of curiosity, I decided to embark on this Positive Psychology. A good friend has studied it a little deeper and asked me to try it. She said it was exactly what I was teaching but with a different twist. 

Here’s the thing: the main pillar of my business is that YOU ARE PERFECT. I always say this because what gets you stuck in the first place is the belief that you are broken and have to be fixed. 

When you see yourself as perfect, you stop trying to fix yourself and embrace the “good” and the “bad.” All parts of you can be included in the beauty of your perfection, and when you are confident that you are the best version of yourself right now, you can move forward to achieve whatever you desire. See, you start moving forward instead of trying to fix what you believe it’s broken. 

Positive Psychology is exactly that. Sometimes, we get the idea that we want to stop suffering. But the truth is we want much more than that. It’s not enough to not suffer in our lives, we want to thrive. 

Feeling fulfillment in your life is the biggest goal, even more than happiness. We grow to believe that we want happiness, but let’s be real… Can you imagine feeling HAPPY at all times? That would be weird and tiring.

We want a burst of happiness throughout the day and a feeling of wholeness, fulfillment, and peace. 

That’s what Positive Psychology offers—the ability to look at your future knowing that you are resourceful, resilient, and capable. You can shift your perspective and look at life with a brighter way of seeing what is happening. Not because you don’t suffer or because you can’t feel negative emotions, but because you embrace the good and the bad, and you know it is all for your own good and growth. 

If you want to hear more about my experience with positive psychology, head to the podcast Episode 3 and see how we can apply these tools in our daily lives. I will show you how I stopped feeling super frustrated at my messy kiddos, how I learned to shift my perspective with a better frame of how I want to see my life, and, most importantly, I want you to hear about the power of SMILE.

This one blew my mind, and I know you will love it too.

Much love,

Thais Glenn